What happened to the role of a mother? What happened to women wanting to be a wife and mom? I was talking to someone the other day at work about how I wanted to be a stay at home mom when I grow up. This perplexed her. She said to me:
"But I have a baby and can work full time. Having both of our incomes means we can have everything we want."
What about what your child wants?
Is it strange that I don't want to work full time when I start a family?
I would rather have time to be at home. To cook and clean and take care of home things. I'd rather be able to be around to instill values and teach my children instead of relying on the world to do it.
Granted I am just me right now. I don't have a husband and I don't have kids. I have a dog, and I feel bad enough that I don't spend time with her!!
Being a mother could quite possibly be the most rewarding use of one's time. You get to be there for all their accomplishments and successes, and when your children are in need you will be available to love them until they can't stand it anymore.
Another ugly trend I see forming is parents who are more concerned with being friends with their kids than being the structure they need in those young impressionable years.
Be a parent to your child while they are young. Teach them, discipline them, praise them when they do well. If you do these things while they're young they will appreciate you for it when they're older. Then you can be their friend.
I see these parents that let their kids do whatever they want for fear that if they don't then their kids will be mad at them.
WHO CARES!?
They're kids. They're going to get mad and be over it in 3.25 minutes anyway. Kids have the emotional elasticity of a slingshot.
I don't understand it.
I read these articles online of children being paid to get good grades in school, and girls making pacts to get pregnant before graduation. Why are these children growing up so soon? Receiving income for hard work and being a parent are jobs for an adult. Most of the time adults aren't even mature enough to deal with these things.
Basically what I'm saying is...I hope I'm a good parent someday.
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I worked fulltime when i had the 3 girls it was the only way we survived. I hated it so much I missed so much of them growing up that I still get emotional just writing this! My mom was a stay at home mom and that is what I have wanted forever! Yes I still caused trouble but I knew my mom was there to help no matter what!
I agree with the parents wanting to be friends with their kids before the parenting happens..
Jason and I are against being our kids friends! Now let me explain we want to be there for them and support them and encourage them but dang it when you(the child)mess up it is my job my responsibility to see it through that you understand what happened why you are being disciplined etc but know that no matter what I love you and want what is best for you! I think our girls are turning out okay...I shouldnt speak too soon they are not teens yet..
Enough of my jaboring I AGREE I CONQUER with everything you said is all I am saying!! lol
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