I was discussing with a co-worker first impressions. We were mainly talking about some new girls that were hired on recently. Though, at one point in the conversation I asked him what his first impressions of me when I started were.
He said this and that about physical appearance and other non-substantial things. The thing that really stuck with me had a little more weight. It was much more eloquent than I have the energy to be, but basically he said that I have a big heart. :)
That was very sweet.
The thing that I noticed was after he told me that I went out of my way to try to help people. I started going above and beyond my "norm." So I tried an interesting experiment today. It's simple, and it's probably something we should do anyway. I complimented people. Nothing huge. Just an "I appreciate this" or "you did really good on that." I was pleased to see the same outcome that I had seen in my own self. It makes me wonder...
Are we all just wandering through our lives looking for vindication? Do we "perform better" when we think other people are watching/appreciating us?
When you were a child did you ever get praised for doing something well/right? Afterward how did you feel? Did you smile and try hard to impress that person again? On the flip side; when we don't notice someone's efforts how do they feel? Do they hurt when they work extra hard and get no recognition?.... Definitely something to keep in mind, yeah?
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